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Its a pretty special video to see if you haven't already.
On Friday, April 13th, the episode of ABC's What Would You Do? featured Lisa Goring, Autism Speaks Vice President of Family Services, and her son Andrew, 15. During the segment, actors playing a family of four, including a boy with autism, were eating in a restaurant, as the cameras looked to capture the responses of fellow customers to behaviors displayed by the boy.
Do you avoid eating out because you have a child with autism, and it's just too stressful to take him to a restaurant? We have some tips to help you avoid some common headaches when dining out at a restaurant with an autistic child.
(In the comments section below the article, please share your tried-and-true advice for managing meals out with an autistic or other special needs child! Other parents will appreciate the help.)
Pretty much everyone loves to be treated to a restaurant meal once in awhile. But when you're the parent (or grandparent) to an autistic child, dining out can sometimes be more hassle than it's worth -- for you, your child, and the people at the restaurant. But avoid it no longer! Here we offer some suggestions to deal with some of the most common issues parents face.
PROBLEM: YOUR AUTISTIC CHILD HAS A HARD TIME WITH CHANGE/VISITING NEW PLACES
There are various ways to help prepare your child for dining out. You can start with these baby steps:
- Practice the whole "eating out" experience at home first. Demonstrate reviewing a menu, ordering, coloring or enjoying another quiet pastime during the wait -- and remind him that it's important to stay in his seat.
- Have a rehearsal at a low-stakes establishment: a fast food place or salad bar/buffet establishment. Yes, the experience is a little different, but will help pave the way toward managing a meal at a typical restaurant.
- Visit a sit-down restaurant just after opening or during their slowest hours, so any problems you encounter are witnessed by as few people as possible. Consider staying only for a single course, maybe either appetizers or dessert.
Once your child (and you!) have mastered these steps, it's time for the litmus test: dining out at a realrestaurant.
When you're ready for the dining out adventure to begin, keep these suggestions in mind:
- If your child needs time to mentally prepare for a restaurant outing, let him know the plans as soon as they're set.
- Anticipate and explain changes if a place has been remodeled or you're going to another restaurant location of the same chain.
- Bring along food from home if needed, as well as any favorite toys, games or books.
- Have your kids use the bathroom before leaving the house so you can hopefully avoid grappling with the public restroom rules (or, worse -- a toilet aversion issue).
- Head off any problems at the pass by choosing a restaurant renowned for fast service (or at the very least, tell the server you're in a rush).
- Consider letting the server know of your child's special needs -- perhaps in the context of asking for speedy service, or to help explain why your son is completely ignoring the question, "So what would you like to drink, young man?"
- Stay at your child's side every moment -- and be sure not to get so caught up in the amazing nachos or a great conversation that you forget to pay attention to what he or she is doing. Autistic kids may not think twice about leaning over and swiping a few fries from the guy at the next table, or staring down the teenager in a nearby booth.
- Don't wait until juice has been spilled all over your pants before asking that your child's drink be served in a kiddie cup with a lid.
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Skills to Consider
This list of important skills to consider when going out to eat with your child with autism was compiled by Nassau Suffolk Services for Autism. *Note: You will need to tailor these based upon your child's abilities.
Waiting to order food
Waiting for food to arrive
Waiting after for everyone else to finish eating
Ordering Food
Making a food choice
Ordering a meal
Speaking at an appropriate volume
Appropriate language to order food
Making a food choice
Ordering a meal
Speaking at an appropriate volume
Appropriate language to order food
Sitting Appropriately
In the absence of non contextual vocalizations
In the absence of any inappropriate body movements
Sitting in an upright position
Keeping hands down
In the absence of non contextual vocalizations
In the absence of any inappropriate body movements
Sitting in an upright position
Keeping hands down
Eating Appropriately/Table Manners 
Pace of eating
Using utensils
Using a napkin
Chewing with mouth closed
Pace of eating
Using utensils
Using a napkin
Chewing with mouth closed
Social Skills
Having a conversation at the dinner table
Using excuse me, please, and thank you
Commenting on food choice
Accepting a denied request if food choice is unavailable
Having a conversation at the dinner table
Using excuse me, please, and thank you
Commenting on food choice
Accepting a denied request if food choice is unavailable
Other Skills
Using a public restroom
Using a public restroom
Resources
The New Social Story Book
by Carol Gray
"A Social Story™ describes a situation, skill, or concept in terms of relevant social cues, perspectives, and common responses in a specifically defined style and format. The goal of a Social Story™ is to share accurate social information in a patient and reassuring manner that is easily understood by its audience. Half of all Social Stories™ developed should affirm something that an individual does well. Although the goal of a Story™ should never be to change the individual’s behavior, that individual’s improved understanding of events and expectations may lead to more effective responses."
by Carol Gray
Click here to visit The Gray Center website, and learn more about Carol Gray's Social Stories.
Social Story App: Pictello
Pictello is a simple way to create talking photo albums and talking books. Each page in a Pictello Story can contain a picture, up to five lines of text, and a recorded sound or text-to-speech using high-quality voices. Pictello is developed for all ages and skill levels, so it is easy to use and requires no reading skills to locate and read stories. Pictello offers an easy visual story creation wizard so everyone can use pictures and sound to share important moments in their lives. Pictello is a universal app and can, without extra costs, be used on iPhone, iPod touch and iPad!
itunes.apple.com (Cost: $18.99)
itunes.apple.com (Cost: $18.99)
Visual Supports
Using visual supports during a meal has many benefits. It can reduce anxiety and makes the activity less overwhelming. Visual supports provide a visual representation of what is going to happen throughout an activity, breaking it down into steps that can be understood by the person.
An example of a visual schedule that can be used for an eating out activity- Display steps in a restaurant routine:
1. Waiting to be seated
2. Ordering my food
3. Waiting for my food to arrive
4. Getting ready to leave the restaurant
1. Waiting to be seated
2. Ordering my food
3. Waiting for my food to arrive
4. Getting ready to leave the restaurant
Visual Supports and Autism Spectrum Disorders
A tool kit from the Autism Treatment Network that introduces parents, caregivers, and professionals to visual supports and provides instruction on how to use them in everyday activities, schedules and tasks. The tool kit provides actual visual supports for parents to print, cut out and use, along with links to resources that provide more detailed information for those who want to go further. Anyone can download the Visual Supports and Autism Spectrum Disorder Tool Kit for free here.
Visual Supports Apps
Model Me Kids: Going Places
Model Me Going Places™ is a great visual teaching tool for helping your child learn to navigate challenging locations in the community. Each location contains a photo slide show of children modeling appropriate behavior. 6 locations: Hairdresser, Mall, Doctor, Playground, Grocery Store and Restaurant.
Cost: Free
Model Me Kids: Going Places
Cost: Free
First Then Visual Schedule
First-Then visual schedule application is designed for caregivers to provide positive behavior support. For individuals with communication needs, developmental delays, Autism or those who benefit from a structured environment; visual schedules serve to increase independence and lower anxiety during transitions through different activities.
Cost: $9.99
Cost: $9.99